Sometimes people ask me what it’s like being a single mother. I’m always honest; it’s incredibly hard but I get a lot of support. (I don’t quite know whether to add “BUT I STILL WISH I WAS MARRIED, HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED FOR?!!)
But I do get a lot of support; many single parents don’t. I have – without doubt- the most wonderful parents in the world. My mother takes care of Maia as if she were her own. (She looks rather young so people do mistake her for Maia’s mother; she loves it). She is the best. We have a rather turbulent relationship; we argue constantly, like I’m thirteen again and within minutes we’re giggling about her hair going white. My best friend, my big sister; she knows all my secrets.
How does this turbulent relationship relate to happiness? (Evidently it has a direct correlation with my happiness. Happy Grandma = Happy Mummy. I have to leave the room if she’s in a bad mood; I can’t bear the tension; her death stares are like daggers. Oh but she’s so lovely otherwise).
Sometimes I forget how lucky I am. My parents do everything they can to make my life easier; (from my Dad taking Maia to the park so I can shower and look presentable to Mum having her overnight so I can be 22 for a night..). Being a mother is the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I do not feel like I’m doing it on my own. I feel like I’m part of a team. – A winning team. I may not be married or in a relationship but my crazy-far-from-perfect-but-perfect-to-me parents make it seem like I’m in one amazing partnership. (Yes sometimes I want to bang my head against a wall and run away to China, but other times I feel like Maia is the luckiest girl in the world).
*This isn’t a personal development or self-help blog. You will find no inspirational quotes, self-love mantras or fundamentals on the Law of Attraction. But I will say this: be grateful, for everything and everyone; even the people that suck because they too are teaching you a valuable lesson -albeit in patience. Appreciate the wonderful people you have in your life. (You don’t have to express your everlasting love for them or anything – just y’know maybe be mindful that your life is better with them in it and meditate on that). Think of what you’ve learnt from this person/people. – And amen.